The Laws Of Attraction....

[Mister_Six]

It seems that I am attracted and repulsed at the same time when it comes to women. Outwardly I am attracted to beauty just like any other man and usually it's enough for men to fuck her. There are so many things that turn me off about women my age. Bisexuality, drug usage, alcohol abuse, lack of moral convictions, mental instability, lack of respect for one's body, exposing too much skin, and any underlying psychological issues that would keep me from enjoying her company.

Most men can shut these things off and do the deed with anyone, even amputees and morbidly obese women, but I am incapable of this. I like to look at women but I don't appreciate their supposed "free spirits" (another word for floozie, slut, and promiscuous), I don't appreciate women that don't appreciate themselves. This has some Satanic merit in the realm of "self love". How am I supposed to be attracted to someone with so many negative qualities? How am I supposed to be attracted to someone that has no love for themselves?

We live in a world where women are slowly losing not only respect for themselves, but are losing respect for men. I can see why. Men are just as fucked up as women are. I'm slowly losing hope in humanity, and losing hope that future families will actually raise respectable women. I wasn't the most respectable man in the past, but I learn from my mistakes and turn them into good things. Everyone around me is losing touch with what makes people respectable and decent human beings. No one respects people that don't respect themselves...

[Stephanie]

Maybe it is just me but it seems to me that you are soo busy looking at the things you dont like that you are not looking for things you do like. Yes i agree that the "quality" of women AND men have lowered dramatically! I mean watch any Maury Povich show! women testing 6,7,10 men to see who their baby daddy is. REALLY? you sleep with that many people in a month? eww! But lets not put all the blame on women sir! Who made it like this? MEN! not all men but Men! They dont want to see a women in a turtle neck sweater and jeans! They wanna see skin! Alot of men want that dumb floozie! That party girl! Bisexuality?!?!? LMAO If guys werent so disgustingly "into it" it wouldnt be here! Dont tell me it isnt like that cause it is! I am a Lesbian and the second a guy finds that out they wanna"watch" Sorry boys my sex life is not a spectator sport! Drud usage... eh i have to agree! I dont use drugs simply because I like to be in control of my body! moral convictions? morals lie within a person. every ones morals differ. mental stability! good luck with finding anyone with mental stability! we all have baggage the trick is finding someone with baggage that matches yours, or at least goes well together. And what do you mean when you say respect for one's body? Or showing too much skin? I mean for myself I refuse to wear a turtle neck and if i wear anything but a turtle neck you are going to see my boobs! However i dont run around in booty shorts either! Lets face it Quality has gone down big time on both sides! Maybe you should lower your standards an inch.

[Mister_Six]

I will not lower my standards to raise someone else's. If they are weak minded, they do not deserve a man of my caliber.

[Mister_Six]

I have TONS to offer a woman! LOL! I cook, I'm stable in my job, I drive, I'm in college working on a degree, I'm intelligent, I'm in great shape, I'm compassionate, etc....I could go on for days how awesome I am ;) If women don't see this it's their loss, but I cannot stop judging people based on negative qualities. If I were to meet a good, worthwhile woman to spend time with I'd probably loosen up my morals a little bit. I've been known to go for women that are social drinkers, that might smoke a bit of pot here and there, maybe even smoke cigarettes, but I will not date sluts. I might not have much confidence or self esteem but I kinda require that my woman at least appreciates her body and her mind. It's been so damn long that I might have to lower a few standards, but the beauty bar will never be lowered. I'm a good looking man that deserves a good looking woman. I don't spend all this time sculpting my body to be with heffers.

[Ballerina Satanica]

"I'm stable in my job, I drive, I'm in college working on a degree, I'm intelligent, I'm in great shape, I'm compassionate, etc."

Of that, the job, car, college and compassion are the important things. Cooking is next, and dead last are your looks.

[Ana, Daughter of Lilith]

Honestly, Mister Six, what exactly is that you want? I’m incredibly sensitive to words, not only to the open message they give, but also to the things they reveal about a person; about a person’s character, psyche and general outlook. The impression you give me both from the above and from other things you have written is of a man on a mission, a man who has been ‘born again’; ‘born again’ into what I have not the first idea, but most assuredly born again. My, what a network this is; misanthropes to the left of me, misogynists to the right of me; preachers to the centre; into the valley of Satan rode the Imp!

So, there you are, like Kafka’s father, judging the world from your armchair or, in your case, in front of your computer screen! And, my, you certainly have a capacity to judge! To be honest with you I’m not that interested in your ‘moral crisis’ or the failure of women to meet your demanding standards. You are what you are; you have every right to be what you are. But you make assumptions, assumptions which are, so far as I am concerned, wrong-headed in every degree.

I can’t really make that much sense of your second sentence. But if ‘beauty’ only exists in your mind for you ‘to fuck’ have you ever considered that you might have the mind of the beast? Perhaps if you perceived people, women in particular, as something other than objects then you might begin to make some progress in your personal odyssey.

Now for the real meat in your cri de coeur. You lump certain things together, from bisexuality to lack of moral centeredness, so I’m assuming that you believe that they are all interrelated, that one leads to the other by some process of degeneration. Yes, I represent some of the things you hate in modern women. I am bisexual, not by fashion, but by choice and experience. From the age of twelve to eighteen I went to an all girls’ boarding school. My earliest romantic feelings were for other girls: my earliest sexual experiences were with other girls. My most lasting relationships now are with guys, but my tenderest moments, my most intimate moments, are still with other women.

So, yes, I’m bisexual. I also drink, smoke and do drugs, ecstasy and cocaine, though under strictly controlled circumstances. I make no apology to you or anyone else for my vices; for, you see, they are my vices. So far so good. But then comes your corollary, that these things suggest lack of moral convictions, mental instability and ‘exposure of too much skin.’ I love this, I really do! Well, I have moral convictions just not your moral convictions. I’m also reasonably stable and if I chose to display skin-and sometimes I do-it is because I chose to; I like the effect it has; I like feeling good and making others feel good. I’m not at all sorry that this offends your Puritanism. I choose to please myself, not people like you. Oh, yes, I almost forgot; I’m also promiscuous sexually, a free spirit, something you in the cloak of Cotton Mather also hate!

I certainly have bags of self-respect, and an intellect like a razor, these vices and failings notwithstanding. I respect people and people respect me. I’m now at the peak of my power; if I get a decent degree I intend to begin work on a doctorate in my area of special interest; my application is already underway. I balance my intellectual life-and my personal excesses- with a keen interest in sport, real sport, activities like rock climbing, lacrosse, swimming, tennis and riding, above all, riding.

Mister Six, it is you who live in a world surrounded by chimeras and monsters, perhaps largely of your own making. Do not judge all others on this basis. For your world is not my world and your message is not my message.

[Stephanie]

Damn girl!!! Well put!

[Ana, Daughter of Lilith]

:-)

[Shiva]

Don't change for the world Ana :D Free as the beautiful aphrodite. I rather have a Lilith then a Eve anyday lol.

[Ana, Daughter of Lilith]

I will be Lilith for you, Shiva. :-)

[Mister_Six]

now this is how a woman should look! What an amazing back!

[Anthony]

Ana can you be Lillith for me too!

[Ana, Daughter of Lilith]

Ohh, to be in demand. :-)