Marriage or NO

[Shiva]

With 50 percent divorce rate and the faces of married couples in the mall and various others places. I believe marriage is a would be prison. Really do we need to bring the legal system into our relationships as well. Is marriage just to make people stay. The only way i would get married if i was allow to have 7 wives :D.

[Leon Engelbrecht]

ureally do live up to ur name
good!

[Mister_Six]

You have to ask yourself why you're getting married. Am I getting married as a way of showing social status? Am I getting married so my offspring will be well off? Am I getting married because my mate is good in bed? Am I getting married so I get some weird kind of legal benefits? Etc...

I feel bad for women that need to parade their lovers around and say, "Lookie at my ring! Isn't it shiny! Or lookie at my hubby, isn't he handsome?!" Who cares how much shiny shit he's bought you or what your fucking friends think of him! Can't people be happy with someone for a long period of time without making legal contracts with their mates? What does that certificate even prove? It doesn't prove shit! You can profess and show your undying love for someone with out legal titles. Being happy is all that matters, not your social status, it doesn't even matter what your friends think of him/her, or your parents. "Are you happy?" should be the question that you ask yourself every day. If you're not happy then move on. If you're not married you won't have to go through the head ache of splitting everything down the middle either. Marriage is for materialistic braggarts. You just want to show people off. It doesn't mean anything. You give your relationship power. You assign it meaning.

[Slackmaster Sinner]

Marriage is a sham which only benefits women. Save yourself the misery. I now live with my xwife and have 2 girlfriends who all know about each other and are open to experimentation. you dont have to get married to be a polygamist. you have to find the right people, be open and honest from the get go. I dont really even spend time with monogamist anymore and my sex life has never been better.

[Shiva]

thats what i'm talking about .

[Leon Engelbrecht]

wow
i'd love the same. alas, africa is narrow-minded and conservative and women here are socialised accordingly

[Yasha Takara]

as long as you and the partner really want it and feel this is a step in your relationship that you want to take, then i say go for it. me and riki have been married for a couple years and the only thing i can really say about it is, find someone that your evenly yoked with. ~yasha

[Leon Engelbrecht]

evenly yoked with: that is key, esp sexually

[Leo-Gonzo Satanist]

Still a thousand times NO!

[Mister_Six]

Okay, if this doesn't put a bull shit institution into perspective, I don't know what will. My mom has been married 7 times! What would possess me to get married after seeing her go through hell and high water? I have a knack for living vicariously through other people while learning their mistakes, and I have learned through my mom that marriage is pointless. So what you get minuscule tax breaks, whoopdy doo! Marriage is just social status whether any of you want to admit that or not. It's a way of saying, "I'm taken....for now...until he does something I don't agree with." The statistics are NOT in your favor, and do you know why? I will tell you....

In an effort to drive every kind of relationship further and further apart we focus on things that are annoying or undesirable in our partners, thus enhancing the inevitability of divorce. When you focus on too much negativity, there will always be a "reason" (excuse) to divorce or nag the man to death. Initially there was something that was compelling about the man that you found irresistible. Now instead of being infatuated you focus on things that he can improve, instead of feeling comfortable with the man you've chosen....

Do you know how easy it is to find things to separate as opposed to things to bring you together? We did an experiment in the hippy school I went to where we wrote a positive section about ourselves then followed up with a negative section about ourselves. Pretty much everyone in the room found substantially more things negative about themselves than they did things that they liked about themselves. If you look hard enough, you will ALWAYS find things you despise in a person. The true test of emotional security is to focus on the things that are positive and stand out about your mate, because nit picking is a pussy way out of a good thing. Make your man feel good about being himself, and men, make your women feel good about being themselves. Quit brooding on the bull shit and complaining about forgetting to look down and see if the toilet seat was down or not. Seriously, life is waaaaay too fucking short to obsess over little crap. And you stereotypical women know EXACTLY what I'm talking about.

Marriage is stupid, it's as outdated and useless as xianity. Women just obsess because it's what you were programmed to do. Rise above! Think about it. While we were impressionable little sponges, we were handed GI Joe's to play war with. While you women were young, you were handed babies and played house. This social conditioning is what makes you place such a high value on something that doesn't mean shit. That legal contract still won't keep him coming home to you every night, it won't make him a better man, it won't do shit. The strength to persevere through tough times is within you. It's not in a fancy piece of paper or a shiny ring. It is not anything external, and if you love someone enough, your word should be as valuable as gold. Assuming you have any integrity ;)

[Queen]

LOL. Understandable. I am married probably getting a dvorce soon we haven't actually figured out when we are going to do it. He is a Marine so yo know that extra money makes you think..especially when you deployed.. I remember those days....

But i do not think it is a prison. If you are really into that person than by all means if you want to marry than do so. Granted not everyone is going to go to till death do us part..but it is a bonus :D

We invite people into our marriage..so i have a couple girlfrieds and way to many boyfriends so that isn't and issue.

I guess it just stems down to who you pick as a mate and if they are worthy of having a marriage with.

[Leon Engelbrecht]

i like this approach